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August 13, 2016 6:52 pm


· It seems like every time it rains or snows, our internet sucks for like three days. I don’t know why this happens because it’s supposedly cable, not satellite, but it’s irritating. 

Theoretically Ting high-speed fiber internet is coming to my tiny town and I signed up to get it once it’s here, but I have no idea how long it’s supposed to take to get here. 

· Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries is one of the best kept secrets on Netflix. Highly recommended. 

· After having lived through my first summer vacation as a parent, I see now why parents are excited for school to start. It is exhausting to have them home all day! 

· It’s looking like we might not make our annual fall Portland trip this year which is kind of bumming me out. We just didn’t really plan for it during summer vacation and I don’t feel like we can do it during the school year. I’m hoping we can sneak down for a long weekend or something. 

· I want to do more writing here but it’s all on pretty heavy topics. It feels weird to jump right into that, but maybe that’s what I need to do in order to feel okay posting about fluffy stuff. 

· We passed our one year homeownership anniversary! It’s still great to have our own place and right now I’m slowly but surely painting our bathroom white. I tried to find the perfect shade of aqua-bluey-green but the bathroom is some kind of color Bermuda Triangle and everything I tried looked either baby blue or dumpy gray or electric green and I finally gave up and painted it Benjamin Moore White Dove and am very pleased. I also spray painted the already-painted-green light fixture matte black as that was easier and cheaper than finding a new matte black fixture. My Indoor Decor Pinterest board is chock full of pretty, high-contrast bathrooms and I’m inching closer to that look where I can. 

· I am still killing succulents left and right. The death toll went down once I bought some specific cactus soil to pot them in, and it went down again once I realized I was smothering them with attention and they probably all rotted from overwatering, but I still can’t keep the ones in the bathroom alive! Maybe not enough direct sunlight? They’re my favorite kind of houseplant but MAN am I terrible at caring for them. 

· Thora chose to potty train herself last month and she’s mostly great but then she goes through phases where she’ll have three accidents in 30 minutes. Like, you’re two! How can you even produce that much pee?! And I won’t even begin to describe the events that led me to borrow a carpet shampooer so I could attempt to salvage her bedroom carpet but it was BAD and I hope I never have to do that again. 

· I keep buying clothes for Wesley that are way too big. I keep telling myself I’m buying ahead and I am, but I apparently think he’s a lot bigger than he actually is. I just got a winter coat for him in a size 7/8 because he’s six going on seven and lanky and I want the coat to fit for more than one winter, but it’s, uh, pretty big. 

Related: I can’t get enough of this app called Kidizen. It’s like Craigslist but for nice kids clothes. You have to hunt for stuff, but I’ve gotten super good deals on Mini Boden and Hanna Andersson stuff that I would never pay full price for but would love to have. I’m also noticing that (for us anyway) the best deals are in shoes and coats since they grow out of those slower. 

· I started rewatching Buffy and I didn’t remember Xander being such an embodiment of #masculinitysofragile the first time. Yikes. He says some pretty terrible stuff in seasons one and two. 

I also still don’t understand what Buffy sees in Angel. I feel like you don’t really get to know Angel (versus Angelus) until he ends up with his own show and you see what he’s like outside of the Scoobies. 

· I couldn’t sleep last night and accidentally stayed up past 2am catching up on Orange is the New Black and decided that Piper is kind of a terrible person. So, SO many bad, unnecessary decisions. 

(Is it weird if I just talk about TV a lot here? Haha.)

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January 1, 2016 11:57 pm


A lot has been going on these past few months!

Wesley started Kindergarten and it’s been so fun seeing all the schoolwork he brings home. Over the course of a couple months, I read the first three Harry Potter books to him for his bedtime stories and gosh, is there anything better than sharing interests with your kids? He is obsessed with all things HP and listens to wizard rock constantly – I find papers all over the house with song lyrics he’s written down. 

I maaaaay have let him know that the west coast Wizarding World of Harry Potter opens this spring and now we’re both dying to go. 

Thora requires constant vigilance. She made it onto our roof this summer while we were installing a drip edge. Daniel had his back turned for approximately 45 seconds and she scaled the ladder, wiggled through the rungs and then just crouched up there until Daniel heard her shoes squeaking on the metal and went up to retrieve her. 

At a few days shy of 20 months, she still doesn’t put herself to sleep so we rock her to sleep in the Tula for her nap and at bedtime. She loves putting on her own socks and shoes, brushing her teeth, and getting into trouble.

She plays a game where she says “I’m mommy” and I say, “no, I’m the mommy!” and she says “ah-I’m da mommy” and so on. (It’s way funnier than it sounds.)

She loooooves Wesley and calls him “Weh-wee” and they usually get along really well until she shouts at him or something and he gets his feelings hurt. He is fantastic with her and is always happy to help out. 

She doesn’t sleep through the night yet so sometimes we’ll try to stick her in with Wesley when she wakes up. He volunteered the idea and reported back that he “tried to snuggle with her but she just wanted to sleep in the crack” which says a lot about them both, I think. 

She’s still allergic to dairy – it’s not an anaphylactic thing (yet?) but she gets a full body rash if she eats anything with cheese or milk or butter. Possibly eggs too, we’re not sure. Wesley is pretty conscientious of it which is great – he moves his milk cup or cereal bowl out of her reach if he leaves the kitchen before he’s finished. 

She still nurses a couple of times a day as well as morning and bedtime, but she can easily skip the daytime sessions if I’m at work or something. She’s also mostly nightweaned; very occasionally Daniel isn’t able to get her back to sleep at like 3am so I’ll nurse her to make it easier. And she’ll happily demand to nurse if I’m in bed, so after six months of being SUPER GREAT at not sleeping on the couch, I’m often back there so that I don’t have to nurse her all night. Sacrifices, man. 

Daniel gets to go to El Salvador again in a few weeks while I am stuck at home with the kids, BUT this time I’m not six months pregnant, super sick, and parenting a 3.5yo so I am pretty sure it’ll be better this time. It does make me fantasize about running away to Canada by myself for a weekend though. 

What have you all been up to? Who even checks in here anymore? Haha. 


November 19, 2013 11:56 pm

Nine Inch Nails

Daniel bought us tickets to Nine Inch Nails for my birthday, way back in June, and tonight was the show!


They had two ladies doing backup vocals and it was not at all what I would have expected from NIN, but they were phenomenal! Excellent voices.

The bass player reminded me of Rammstein’s keyboardist – a really tall, thin guy – but with big old hipster glasses.

Trent Reznor was wearing harem pants.

There was a guy who played so many different instruments over the course of the show: electric guitar, tambourine, tenor saxophone, marimba, acoustic guitar, shaker, and a guitar he played laying flat like a dulcimer.

The only real downside was the same as any other show – I have really sensitive eyes so when things go from dark to light really quickly, it hurts and it makes my eyes water really badly. And they did it a lot!

They closed out the show by playing Hurt. It was a great way to end the set! I also really liked that they played a version of A Warm Place in the middle of the set – it’s an instrumental song and I love it so, so much.

A big thank you to Daniel for my birthday present, and to my parents for watching Wesley while we’re out!

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November 2, 2013 4:48 pm

New Cousin; Work Clothes

Two things for today:

Baby Cousin
My sister-in-law just had her baby (a boy! I was totally guessing girl!) and I am so, so excited for her and her husband. This is their first baby and they’re going to be amazing. The little guy is Wesley’s first cousin on that side of the family!

Work Clothes
I just finished day five of a seven-day workweek (to make up for the time I was in Portland) and I am rapidly running out of work-appropriate clothes that are also comfortable to wear. I don’t need maternity clothes yet, but I find I’m preferring to wear dresses with leggings versus pants – they’re just more comfortable! Problem is, I don’t have that many work-appropriate dresses! Gah. I need a basic ponte knit dark gray dress and maybe another ponte thing and it’d help me out a lot.

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August 31, 2013 1:04 pm

Under the Wire

Sneaking in here on the last day of August to say AAAIIIEEE! Really? LAST DAY OF AUGUST?

Daniel and I had our 10-year high school reunion last weekend, and I’m glad we went. I got to chat with a friend of mine from the eighth grade and it was honestly really great catching up with him. We laughed about the one and only time most of us had played spin-the-bottle and how so many of us had our first kisses then, and the giant box of handwritten notes I had in my bedroom that now lives in my parents basement. (I should pick that box up sometime and go through them.)

At the reunion, I learned from a former co-worker (at the job I got laid off from in June) that he had no idea where I went. Like, I was at work one week and I wasn’t the next and nobody told him what happened, and he thought maybe I was on vacation but then I never came back. He was SHOCKED to hear I’d been laid off. Communication! It is important.

My new job – receptionist at an apartment complex for the elderly – continues to go well. I tell people that working there is kind of like having 30 extra grandparents, which is honestly pretty great.

One guy, E, told me a story about how when E was being shipped off in World War II, his father gave him a coin and said “As long as you have this, it’ll keep you safe.” He kept it with him all through the war and he’s had it with him ever since. He showed me the coin – the date on it was 1886 and it was rubbed almost completely smooth. He said he lost it once, for about a year, and then someone returned it to him and that’s the only time it’s ever been out of his possession. And he’s in his 90s!

I’m still getting the hang of Accounts Receivable and Accounts Payable stuff but it’s coming along. I don’t panic when the phone rings anymore, and for someone with phone anxiety that is really something. I can usually answer questions correctly now so that probably has something to do with it.

Wesley is doing well; he’ll be three and a half at the end of September. He loves riding his little balance bike and asks for “a Wesley-sized bike with pedals” all the time, so we’re thinking maybe Santa will come through with one this year. Somehow he became obsessed with Mickey Mouse? So he has a Mickey shirt and Mickey pajamas and loves to read Mickey books.

Oh! A couple of weeks ago I was hanging up clothes in our bedroom and I stepped on something sharp as I was turning the corner around our bed. It looked like a tiny rock, but it stayed stuck in my foot and I couldn’t tell what exactly it was, and it bled more than I expected. I consulted Twitter and my mom and they all urged me to get it checked out. We have terrible health insurance that covers practically nothing so I was hesitant, but after a day of limping around on it I decided to go to the doctor. Urgent Care patched me up for TWENTY DOLLARS when I thought it was easily going to be over two hundred, and said it was a tiny slate chip, like from a piece of slate tile. I have no idea how a chip of slate got into our bedroom, but hey! I am now rock-free and nearly completely healed.

I took the last part of July and apparently the whole month of August off of running. It is just too dang hot and I am only able to run in the evenings when it’s the worst. I need to get back into it though, now that it is cooling off a little more at night. Plus we kind of fell off the Paleo wagon a little bit too (cheese-and-cracker snacks in the evenings! ugh!) so I’d like to climb back on that wagon again. Seriously, even just pretending like I eat Paleo has forced me to eat so much more protein and veggies versus cold cereal and pasta.

I can’t decide where I should start out running-wise though, now that I’ve taken a month off. Should I start somewhere in the middle of C25K and work back up to 2 mile runs? Or just use my Nike+ app and start running and see how long I can go before I feel like dying?

Anyway, that’s what’s been going on with me. How have you all been?


November 9, 2012 7:43 pm


We got our first snow of the year today! I spent the morning laying in bed (on my new sheets, which are amazing) reading The Wise Man’s Fear and peeking out the window at the snow.

There’s not a lot (and I have no pictures) but it was a fun way to start the day.

…and now I’m ending the day with some fruit pie from my mother-in-law and some ice cream.

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November 8, 2012 10:11 pm

+1 Productivity

Today I:

  • Changed the sheets on our bed. We got these new flannel sheets from Target that are ivory with teal ticking stripes and they’re adorable.
  • Did two loads of laundry (but didn’t fold any of it because UGGGGHHHH FOLDING LAUNDRY)
  • Deposited paychecks in the bank
  • Dropped off a check at daycare
  • Visited Daniel at work (Wesley swept some rugs with this electric sweeper thing and LOVED IT.)
  • Discovered my lost iPod at the bottom of the washer after the second load of laundry :|
  • Made Wesley a shape-matching worksheet that he seemed to have fun with. We practiced writing his name and drawing lines from a shape on the left side of the page to its matching shape on the right.
  • Had a meeting with a freelance client
  • Badly bruised my middle finger while opening my car door to head to the above meeting. It was ridiculously windy outside and the wind blew the car door at me and it hit my finger really, really hard. It puffed up right away and is now all bruised.
  • Watched the latest episode of Supernatural on Hulu. I don’t know how people manage watching television shows while they are actually on television. My favorite thing about discovering a new book series or TV series or band is when all their books/episodes/albums are already out and I can just gorge myself on their entire body of work. Waiting a whole week between episodes feels like an eternity.
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August 20, 2012 6:37 am

VBAC Inspiration

Lately, I’ve been collecting VBAC birth stories and anecdotes that speak to me on some level, and I’d like to share some of them here.

My new celebrity VBAC hero: Kate Winslet

I’ve always really liked Kate Winslet; she seems very down-to-earth and funny and normal. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that she had a very healing VBAC for her second child!

There’s this thing amongst women in the world that if you can handle childbirth, you can handle anything. I had never handled childbirth, and I felt like, in some way that I couldn’t join that “powerful women’s club.” So it was an amazing feeling having Joe naturally, vaginally. […] It was an incredible birth. It laid all the ghosts to rest. It was really triumphant.
-Kate Winslet

Birth Story: Accidental UHBAC (Unassisted Homebirth After Cesarean)

This birth story is great. (Plus, the picture of that baby’s chubby little face up top is great too.) This lady birthed her baby into her husband’s arms, in her kitchen, after her labor went much quicker than she expected and her midwife and doula weren’t able to make it in time. She used hypnobirthing techniques during her labor, which is something I’m interested in checking out, and her description of her postpartum experience is so sweet – she felt great, and her family got to come over to meet the baby!

At that point I really wasn’t in too much pain. I didn’t really feel anything other than a baby’s head just hanging out. It was obvious my body was in control and I was just along for the ride. I attribute being a birth story junkie to knowing what to do, since it’s not like I had previous practice.

Her tone is really conversational, and I’d say her story is probably my favorite of the ones I’ve found.

Empowering Hospital VBAC

I like that this birth story shows it’s possible to have a really great hospital experience. I kind of feel like positive hospital VBACs are few and far between, so it’s nice to read of one that went really well for both mom and baby.

I couldn’t believe it: I pushed her out. Not only was I in awe of my newest daughter but I was in awe of myself. I was so happy and I kept saying “I can’t believe I pushed her out!”

Obviously not all VBACs are sunshine and butterflies, but I really enjoy reading positive accounts of women’s experiences, as they help me envision all the different ways a birth can go and still be a positive experience.

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August 15, 2012 8:48 pm

Whining about Netflix again

After stumbling across this “Post-Play” entry on the Netflix blog, I was compelled to write another whiny entry regarding the Netflix interface on the Xbox.

According to the Netflix blog, here’s what Post-Play is:

When you finish watching an episode of a TV show, we’ll minimize the credits and tee-up the next episode. If you do nothing, the next episode will start to play in 15 seconds. You can also stop it to get more information or select another episode.

Seriously, Netflix? I like the minimization of credits thing – that’s been there for a while on the Xbox interface – but the next episode starting to play after 15 seconds? WILL DRIVE ME BATTY.

I was already annoyed with the recent “preview” feature – if you leave your cursor over a movie/tv show, it now expands it to play a 30-second preview that you can’t exit out of. You can move the cursor to stop it, but if you leave the cursor alone again, it starts to preview THAT title. It would be one thing if I could hit pause and be done with it, but you can’t.

A comment on the Netflix post:

This is a killer feature I’ve wanted for years–but why isn’t this experience a user-optional setting? If I’m watching episodes of “Lost” on my couch, yes I want this feature! If I’m watching an episode on my tablet in bed before going to sleep, I may want it to stop after one episode so it doesn’t run all night[…]
– Kevin Park

I often watch several episodes of a given show in a row, but I don’t want Netflix to make that decision for me. I would accidentally stay up all night watching TV if I didn’t have the built-in failsafe of the episode stopping and having to make the conscious decision to put another one on.

The other most recent update involves being able to choose which “Netflix Experience” I want when I open the app, and my choices are the normal Netflix or one specifically for kids. I see why some people would enjoy the kids-only option, but… I don’t use it, I don’t plan to, and I want to avoid having to select it over and over.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the Netflix Xbox app desperately needs a preferences menu. You could choose your default Netflix experience so it doesn’t ask you EVERY SINGLE TIME you open the app, you could choose whether or not to have the bip-bip noises when you move your cursor (NO), you could choose whether or not you want the preview option (NO), you could choose whether or not you want the auto-play option, either globally or on a per-viewing basis… the list goes on.

Netflix: Please let your users choose how they want to use your app!

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July 30, 2012 9:16 pm

More Buffy, HP Birthday, Hi-Kid, Computer, Life

More Buffy

(Follow-up to my Buffy post)

I’ve now read through Season 8 and (what’s been released of) Season 9 of the comics (though… I read S9 first and want to go back and re-read now that I’ve finished S8) and if you are a Buffy fan, I’d recommend them. They’re totally outlandish but it’s outlandish in a quirky, fun, comic-y way. I am glad I was warned it was crazy, for sure, but I felt like they stayed true to the spirit of the show and I really enjoyed them.

Plus, the artwork is so great – they resemble the actors without being portraits of them, and some of the panels are downright beautiful. (The “I miss my mom” dusk-sunset page!)

I’ve also been reaaaally half-assedly watching Angel, and ye gods. I cannot get into it. I am still set on giving it a chance (mostly to get to the bits with Spike) but it is pretty tortuous. I am just not that big of a fan of Angel, I guess?

My birthday

I turned 27 on June 21 and I had a Harry Potter-themed birthday party! My mom came as Molly Weasley, my dad as Neville Longbottom, my brother as Sirius Black, Daniel’s mom as Pomona Sprout, her man-friend as Hagrid, and Daniel was Harry Potter, I was Luna Lovegood, and Wesley was Dobby. Whew! There were several other guests that came as Muggles. :) I made a Platform 9 3/4 “brick wall” out of a sheet to hang over the door – it was a big hit. All the food was HP-themed as well; I even made pumpkin juice! I think the butterbeer was the big winner though – cream soda + butterscotch schnapps. YUM!


Daniel’s grandpa, whom we called “Hi-Kid,” passed away on June 20.

Wesley and Hi-Kid

My favorite Hi-Kid story revolves around him discovering I did web development, and then telling me he had Adobe CS already and wasn’t sure if he should upgrade to CS2 since what he was doing with Photoshop seemed to work fine for him, and could I tell him if it was worth the extra cost? I remember being appalled that someone in their eighties even knew what Photoshop was, let alone used it and had an opinion about upgrading it.


Another favorite memory involves the first time I had dinner at Nana and Hi-Kid’s house, and Hi-Kid was serving mashed potatoes. I asked for one scoop, and he gave me that plus two more. I soon came to find out this was a thing, and the chronic over-purchasing and over-serving of food is sort of a running joke. This was further underscored during Hi-Kid’s memorial service when the family purchased WAY too many boxes of cookies for guests to eat and were trying to pawn them off on guests.

He was an incredibly sharp, witty man and I’m a better person for having known him. We’ll miss him a lot.


We’ve had some crazy lightning storms recently, and I am a dunce and did not think to unplug my computer during a particularly flashy one, and the next morning my computer wouldn’t turn on and the monitor smelled like burning. We took it in, it was diagnosed with a burnt-out power supply and we had to wait for a special one to come in the mail (I have a tiny computer and it needed a tiny power supply) and get installed. TWO WEEKS LATER, I have my computer back and am able to resume my normal computery activities. We do have a tiny netbook and a broken-but-repaired iPod Touch that got us by in the meantime, but man. I do not want to do that again.


August is going to be a busy month for us! My brother is getting married on the 18th, and then we have friends coming to stay with us, and then my cousin is getting married near Boise, ID on September 1st so we’ll take a trip down there.

Wesley and his cousin were in the 4th of July baby parade again this year. Riley has one of those motorized kid cars, except it’s a John Deere tractor, so he drove and pulled Wesley behind in the trailer. They had loads of fun.

4th of July Baby Parade

My mom, Wesley, and I went cherry picking at my grandparents’ house. I am making a weird face but we had a good time:

Cherry picking

My dad took Wesley on a (low speed! very safe!) ride on his ATV. Wesley calls it a motorcycle (pronounced “moley-lyco”) and was THRILLED he got to wear a moley-lyco helmet.


My mom had gallbladder surgery recently (non-emergency, thankfully) and is recovering well. I was nervous when my dad didn’t text me for a few hours but then again I forgot to ask how long the surgery would take.
She’s also organizing a local Big Latch On event that I’m helping with. Should be fun! If you’re a breastfeeding mom see if there’s one near you – you can help break the record of the most women breastfeeding simultaneously.

I’m still working part-time, three days a week, and Wesley still cries at every daycare dropoff. Thank goodness it’s only once a week!

Our county fair is coming up later this month and I am ridiculously excited about it. I used to make all my summer money at the fair when I was younger (you get $3 for a blue ribbon!) and I want to enter some embroidery stuff this year. I have this Badbird Beaver pattern already and I’m dying to use it – I really want to make it sort of oversized and prettily colorful, and then maybe the judges will be overcome with love for my efforts and I will get a purple Grand Champion ribbon for it. A girl can dream.

That about brings us up to date, I think. What have you been up to?


June 1, 2012 4:42 pm

Thoughts on Buffy

A while ago, I was searching for a new TV series to watch and I impulsively settled on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Because I was familiar with the characters despite having never seen an episode (being subscribed to Seventeen magazine while Buffy was airing probably didn’t hurt) and because everyone is all big on Joss Whedon, I decided to check it out.

I see now why people consider Joss Whedon a genius. The show is really good.

(Spoilers ahead if you haven’t seen the show!)

Favorite things:

  • Spike

    It’s not so much that I find James Marsters attractive; it’s more like I find his character attractive. His irreverent demeanor, English accent, devotion to Buffy, and offhand quips that perfectly describe something that no one else is willing to bring up.

    I ship Buffy and Spike, but I am still SO IRRITATED that Buffy was so mean to him all the time. Sure, she with him for all the wrong reasons in Season 6, but good grief. The things she said to him were extremely over the top sometimes. “You’re beneath me.” “It could never be you.” etc.

    That said… they were SO HOT when they were together. *fans self* (When Spike holds up Buffy’s underwear as she’s trying to leave? OMG.) (Or when they wake up together under Turkish rugs.) (Or when Buffy is invisible and has her way with him. And then Xander walks in while Spike is… “exercising.” “Naked.”) *fans self again*

    I also love Spike’s relationship with Dawn. He babysits her! She looks up to him! He calls her “Niblet!” I just love that he’s simultaneously this murderous evil vampire and a teenager’s babysitter.

    Plus, he’s kind of… a total doof before he gets turned into a vampire. Something about this totally doofy poetry-obsessed loser turning into Spike… it’s great.

  • Once More, With Feeling

    The musical episode. I bought the soundtrack to this episode immediately after finishing the series and now I cannot stop listening to it. There’s just something about the cast singing and all those harmonies that I can’t resist. (Walk Through The Fire is especially good.) I am now extremely, extremely sad that I wasn’t yet a Buffy fan when Cinema 21 in Portland used to host Once More With Feeling sing-alongs!

    Also: Giles’s knowing smile/laugh when Buffy sings, “Hey, I’ve died twice!”

  • Tabula Rasa

    This is the one where Willow accidentally causes everyone to lose their memory while trying to perform a memory spell on Buffy and Tara. The comedy in this episode is beyond wonderful. Spike thinks Giles is his father, Spike is wearing a brown tweed suit and a crazypants earflap hat, Giles and Anya believe they are engaged… the whole thing is simply amazing.

Other Thoughts

  • I’m not sure I understand why everyone seems to love Angel so much. I don’t dislike him, per se, I just feel like he wasn’t around long enough for me to get to know him. I mean, Buffy was super into him, but I feel like I never understood why. Perhaps I should go back and watch the first couple of seasons to see if anything jumps out at me?
  • I don’t like Faith. I get why people love her, but I found her a little too flippant and “whatever, I do what I want.”
  • Legitimately scary bits: The Gentlemen, Gnarl the skin-eating demon, The First turning Anya into this white-eyed creepy person, and The First making Dawn see scary flashes of her dead mother.
  • SPOILERS: Tara’s shooting and subsequent death seemed totally and completely random to me. I was convinced that Willow was going to bring her back right away and was very disappointed it didn’t happen. Also: Xander losing an eye was one of the most awful things to happen in the entire series. I was convinced here too that Willow was going to come through as his best friend and heal his eye, especially since they didn’t have her help Tara, but no. Sad! Poor Xander. END SPOILERS

I’ve heard mixed things about seasons 8 and 9 of the Buffy comic but I’m kind of interested in checking them out – not really sure how to go about this because I am not a comics person, but I saw digital copies for sale somewhere that I might take a look at. The artwork looked amazing.

I’m also going to try watching Angel. I started Episode 1 while I was in the middle of watching Buffy and didn’t find it spectacular, but then again I didn’t find Buffy spectacular for the first few episodes either so I’m willing to give it a chance. Plus, MOAR SPIKE YES YES.


May 4, 2012 2:44 pm


Some backstory, since I’ve only posted about this on Twitter: I got a part-time job! I will be working Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays doing web development for a local company. Wesley will be in daycare Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays for the month of May so I can work on a fast-paced freelance job on my days off from the new part-time job, and then the plan is to drop him down to just Wednesdays at daycare once that project is completed.

My heart hurts today. It’s day three of daycare for Wesley, and this morning’s dropoff was horrible. He’s normally really easy-going and happy to play with toys and other babies, and we tried to talk it up to him beforehand (“You get to play with babies all day!”) but dropoffs got progressively worse this week, culminating in this morning whereby the teacher had to hold him on her lap while he scream-cried for me as I tried to back out the door.

I got in the car and cried.

I’ve felt so, so guilty and awful and on the verge of tears all day today. He’s fine, I know he’s fine, but it’s still so hard to leave him. He’s never really been… sentient? when I’ve had to use daycare in the past. Now he understands that Daddy goes to work (AKA The Place With The Muffins) and Mommy stays home with Wecky, and this new “Mommy work” with “pooters” (computers) means he doesn’t see either of his parents all day and he is not pleased.

I thought in some ways it’d be easier now that he’s older and not a helpless infant, but in many ways I am realizing it is FAR WORSE.

Day one, he started bawling “MOMMY DADDY! MOMMY DADDY!” when I picked him up, and it took several minutes to calm him down and reassure him that Mommy and Daddy didn’t leave forever, and Mommy was taking him home so we’d be there when Daddy got home. Day two, when I came to get him he was snotty and covered in tears and they said he did great up until the last ten-ish minutes, when several parents started showing up and he was looking around for his mommy and daddy and didn’t see them.


Plus, he doesn’t seem to nap very well there (maybe an hour, vs the two+ we get at home) so he comes home super cranky. They also don’t have daily sheets like I thought they would, the ones that say what he ate and when he napped and for how long. So when I get him in the afternoons, I do not have the faintest idea what he did all day and since he can’t talk super well, I can’t ask him what he did either. It just makes things that much harder than they need to be.


In addition to this, my paternal grandma passed away on Wednesday night, at the age of 87. She’s the one who taught me embroidery when I was ten, and always encouraged my craft projects. I have extremely fond memories of being ten or eleven years old, eating homemade bread with butter and jam at her kitchen table, while talking to her about life.

She always tried to get me to be less messy, telling me “A place for everything, and everything in its place.” She was the sort of lady who had her Christmas shopping finished in July, and never sent her Christmas cards out later than the first week of December. She handmade all of her grandchildren a Christmas ornament every year, so when we moved out and began our own lives, we’d have a whole collection of our own ornaments to use on our tree. She loved owls and hummingbirds.

This has been a hard week.


April 17, 2012 10:19 am

Wesley’s 2nd Birthday

Wesley turned two on March 25, and we had a big, dinosaur-themed party for him!

We had pizza, chocolate cupcakes with cream cheese frosting, and fruit salad with a watermelon carved like a Tyrannosaurus Rex! (I followed this tutorial.)

Cupcake Eating

Dinosaur magnets

Watermelon T-Rex


Wesley has been so funny and so crazy lately; I suppose it’s part of the territory when you’re two.

He’s started talking in more sentence-like ways, saying things like “Daddy make juice” or “Mommy play blocks” or “Sophie nap blanket.” He’s been calling himself “Wecky” for months, but now he does it if he wants something. Especially if we’re in the store. He just starts wailing “WECKYYYYYYY! WEEEEEEEEECKYYYYY!” which sounds like absolute nonsense to anybody but us.

I posted this on Twitter already, but the day after his birthday he found a leftover unused plate and said, “Plate! Mommy Rowie. Eat. Pizza! Happy birthday! Blow candle. Cupcake.” IT’S LIKE HE IS A REAL HUMAN, WITH MEMORIES. (“Rowie” (Roan) is his best friend, and he never calls Roan’s mom by her name – it’s always “Rowie Mommy.”)

This is a super belated post, but I wanted to acknowledge his birthday here for posterity. Happy birthday, Babby Weffles!


April 4, 2012 5:41 pm

End of an Era

I’m going to go ahead and declare that Wesley and I are done breastfeeding. He was on the “every two weeks” plan for quite some time – two months, maybe – and it pleased me that we might be able to hit my goal of breastfeeding for two years. I don’t know if we “officially” hit that goal – he still asks to nurse but clearly has no idea what to do once he gets there so he hasn’t actually had milk in quite some time – but to me it feels like we did, so I’m going to say that we did.

I feel like I’m in a weird place right now though, being a breastfeeding advocate who is not currently breastfeeding. Intellectually, I know it is totally possible to live in this space, but it feels weird to me nonetheless. I think my next steps are going to be researching how to improve Idaho’s breastfeeding laws! That way, even though I am not currently nursing a baby, I can still help out and support other mothers who are or who plan to.

I’m sad about a few things; namely, that I have no photos of us breastfeeding. NOTE TO PARENTS: take photos of this! Your wife/girlfriend/partner may not ever want to see them, but some of us would be really happy if we had them.

Also, you know how everybody says “nobody gets a gold medal for breastfeeding?” Sometimes I think that’s sad, because gold medals are awesome. So I made myself one.

(I used this tutorial. Mostly.)

Now that we’re done nursing, I took the opportunity to invest in some state-of-the-art non-nursing bras, and I am so very, very excited for them to come in the mail.


March 30, 2012 3:02 pm


I’ve been pretty quiet lately; I think a lot of it is due to me reading a lot of political blog posts and feeling really disheartened with what’s going on legally these days.

For instance, Kansas House legislators have approved a bill that legalizes discrimination against gays and lesbians. This is so morally reprehensible to me that I am finding it difficult to come up with something coherent to say about it.

Pauls gave an example to explain why she backs the bill, saying an employer should be allowed to fire a “cross dresser.”

So… what, a woman who wears pants? Seriously. This person is in favor of someone losing their job because they might not dress according to society’s gender norms.

For example, an employer could fire someone if they discovered the employee was gay. Or a landlord could kick a renter out of their home. The religious exemption extends past places of business to universities, where students or instructors could opt out of a school’s anti-discrimination policy.

It is absolutely NOT an employer’s business who an employee is in love with. It just isn’t. You just know the companies that would perpetrate this injustice would likely not fire the married employee having an affair with the new secretary. Because even though it’s adultery, it is not THE GAY so it’s okay. I just… Ugh. People are people. Who they love is nobody’s business but the parties involved. Legalizing discrimination hurts everyone.


Then there’s that whole Sandra Fluke thing.

“What does it say about the college co-ed Susan Fluke who goes before a congressional committee and essentially says that she must be paid to have sex — what does that make her? It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex. She’s having so much sex she can’t afford the contraception. She wants you and me and the taxpayers to pay her to have sex.”

Calling someone (ANYONE) a slut and a prostitute for requesting that heath insurance providers cover prescription medication is so, so far beyond the pale that I’m surprised there isn’t more outrage. What he said is in no way acceptable. (Plus, he didn’t even get her name right.)

His statement that she was “having so much sex” she couldn’t afford birth control and wants the government to pay for it is patently untrue – her testimony referred to a friend of hers who lost an ovary because despite needing contraception to treat her ovarian cysts, she couldn’t afford the medication. To continue on and say that, for requesting such a thing, she should be required to film her sexual activities for others’ enjoyment? I am nearly apoplectic.

“So the woman comes forth with this frankly hilarious claim that she’s having so much sex – and her buddies with her – that she can’t afford it,” Limbaugh continued. “And not one person says, did you ever think about maybe backing off the amount of sex that you have?”

Rush, this is not how the pill works. You take one pill a day, regardless how much (or how little!) sex you are planning to engage in that day. You do not take a pill before every sexual encounter. Frankly, it shocks me that a man (who, due to his widely publicized prescription for Viagra and his multiple marriages, is presumably having sex with women) would not understand the mechanics of taking contraceptive pills.

Also, why should she have to back off on the amount of sex she has? Slut-shaming is also not okay.


Then, there’s all hoopla about required ultrasounds (often transvaginal) as part of a prerequisite for abortions. One such bill was recently withdrawn in Idaho (and you can bet your britches I wrote to my congressman about it).

“[…] What I was hoping that it would accomplish is that it would give the mother one more opportunity to see the baby before she made that decision. … I think the more information they have, the less likely they are to have an abortion.”
-Sen. Steve Vick, R-Dalton Gardens (a co-sponsor of the bill)

It’s infuriating to me that the men coming up with these bills think that women are not capable of recognizing when having a baby would be a bad decision for them. I know women who have had abortions, and it was the best decision for them at that point in their lives. Women do not blithely get abortions, and I’m not sure why there’s such a strong misconception that they do.


This is a slightly more minor issue, but despite its (comparatively) high breastfeeding rates, Idaho is one of only four states that does not have a law protecting public breastfeeding, other than to say you can be exempt from jury duty because of it.

Surprisingly, for how awful the breastfeeding rates in Mississippi are, they have a pretty comprehensive set of breastfeeding laws:

Law allows a mother to breast-feed her child in any location she is otherwise authorized to be and excuses breast-feeding mothers from jury duty. Also prohibits discrimination towards breast-feeding mothers who use lawful break time to express milk.

I was shocked to discover this lack of protection for public breastfeeding in Idaho a couple of months ago and it’s been weighing on my mind ever since. Anybody have any ideas how I can get this ball rolling? Despite watching Schoolhouse Rock in my youth, I don’t have the faintest idea how to get a bill introduced.


All of this makes my heart hurt, and I can’t stop thinking about it.