I keep getting confused with how many months along I am. It seems like months would be easier to compute than weeks, but it isn’t and the math confuses me. I told someone yesterday that I was five and a half months along, but then I second-guessed myself and used a calculator and thought maybe it was four and a half, but in theory 16 weeks should be four months (-ish) and 20 weeks should be five, so I think I’m right? But then this page says I am six months along! They say weeks 22-26 constitute the 6th month. So I don’t know.
Nobody lets me have their seat when I’m riding on public transit yet. This is probably less due to rudeness and more because the coat I usually wear fits like a circus tent and not a belly-highlighting thing, but… sometimes I just want to sit down. I’m not really okay with being the annoyingly pregnant person rubbing their belly in an effort to draw attention to myself, but I will admit to considering it sometimes.
Daniel’s dad and stepmom generously purchased us a carseat and a Bumbo seat off our registry for Christmas, so now we will be allowed to leave the hospital with Baby! There are apparently places that will install your carseat for you for free so we are going to look into one of those when we get the car thing sorted out.
So, the name thing. We had a couple girl’s names we liked pretty early on, and I felt very “Yeah!” about both of them. I have no boys names I feel enthusiastic about yet.
We’ve each made a list and traded them, just to get a feel for style and see if any names on there spark our imagination. Mine were mostly names that I liked but wasn’t sure I’d actually use, and several of Daniel’s were names of people we know, so I’m not convinced our lists helped us any.
Name issue #1: Fitting with last name
Any name ending in a -C or -K sound makes our last name sound like a nasty four-letter word for the female anatomy. This is obviously a problem. The name “Michael” seems fairly innocuous, but “Mike” sounds dreadful. I am not willing to overlook this.
Name issue #2: Trends vs Classics
In high school, my favorite boy name was Aiden. LOVED IT. I was convinced I would name my baby Aiden come hell or high water. Now that I am preparing to have a baby boy, all of a sudden that name and anything that rhymes with it (Jayden/Caiden/Brayden/etc.) have rocketed into the top 10 baby names of the year. BLARGH. I was already kind of over it anyway, but I find it that much more annoying that it’s SO popular.
I like old-fashioned names. Grandparent-y type names that sound familiar but fresh. I am so very not into using a “trendy” name. A popular name might be okay with me, but not a flash-in-the-pan trendy one.
Old-fashioned and grandparenty is a SUPER easy naming theme for girls, not so much for boys. Much of the problem is that classic boys names have never really gone away, so naming a baby “William” or “Jonathan” doesn’t seem so much like bringing back an awesome old-fashioned grandfatherly name as reusing a name that has been consistently-popular for decades.
Which… this is not necessarily bad. It’s just hard for me to get excited about those picks. Nothing really feels like “my baby” yet. Some names I like, but they feel like “someone else’s baby.”
Name issue #3: the -ER problem
Names that end in an -ER noise make for an awkward rhythm or rhyming problem with the last name. “Hunter” is the worst offender, but even names like “Oliver” (a name that we do like a lot) sound awkward to me. Daniel says it doesn’t bother him, but… eh. It just reminds me of my mom writing her annual Christmas letter in rhyme and attempting to rhyme things like “mane” and “again.” Not happening.
Name issue #4: Enthusiasm
All the names I come up with, I feel very “ehh” about. I want to LIKE the name, not just feel “okay” about it.
NAMING A HUMAN IS HARD.