February 23, 2015 6:56 pm


It seems like I’ve seen StitchFix mentioned everywhere, but if you haven’t heard of it, it’s basically like having a personal shopper but you don’t have to leave your house. You pay a $20 “styling fee,” they pick out five items for you, and if you choose to keep and purchase at least one of the items, the styling fee gets applied toward the cost of the items. You can get boxes shipped automatically or only when you schedule them.

Part of the signup process involves trying to describe your style so your StitchFix stylist has a better chance of sending you stuff you’ll like. I found the “any extra info?” box a little small for my verbose self, so I’m putting all the info I couldn’t fit in that box right here on my website for my stylist. And also for you because I just KNOW you are dying to know what I dress myself in every day.


I have two pairs of jeans. They are both American Eagle jeggings, one indigo blue and one black. I wear one of these pairs of pants 99.9% of the time I leave the house. They’re comfortable for my postpartum body due to the spandex content, and they come in “short” so they’re not dragging on the ground. I also like that they fit into tall boots easily and yet they still look fine with Toms shoes and Minnetonkas and other flats. I am aware they are probably not the most flattering cut/style for my body shape but I kind of do not care at this point in my life. They’re comfortable and I like them.


I also have a pair of Express brand dress pants that read as gray but are actually a black/white tweed-like mix. The “short” option (30″ inseam) was still pretty long on me but otherwise they fit super well.


I looooove wearing dresses, as they’re typically more flattering on my particular body shape, but nearly none of the dresses I own are breastfeeding-friendly so I cannot wear them anytime soon. I would love a nursing-friendly dress! Fit-and-flare styles look good on me. Wrap dresses do too, but they always end up SUPER cleavagey and low-cut on me, so I wear a tank underneath, but then it bunches a bit and I dunno… it’s hard to keep all the layers behaving.


My favorite shirts are basic black v-neck tees from Target that are 95% cotton and 5% spandex. The spandex is important to me because I am SO OVER 100% cotton tees getting all stretched out and flabby-looking and UGH. The spandex keeps them fitted and a little sleeker than all cotton tees, and though I do own this shirt in a few other colors (hot pink, purple, greenish-teal) I always end up choosing the black ones to wear because they don’t seem to highlight lumpy postpartum body parts as dramatically as the lighter colors do. I have these shirts in both L and XL and I haven’t noticed a huge difference in size.

My other favorite shirt is a dark gray v-neck vintage-style tee from Old Navy. It was like $6 and I love that the color is dark-ish and looks good with both blue and black jeans. I have three because I love it and I don’t mind having a bunch of the same shirt if I like it a lot and it’s not distinctive.


I wear a $3 basic black strappy tank from Forever21 under all my shirts and it works great for me as a nursing top. I pull my tee hem up and my tank neckline down and BAM! Minimal exposure but easy breastfeeding access.

I have three navy blue shirts with white stripes and I love them all. My favorite is from Dorothy Perkins and I like it because it’s a sturdy weight, has a simple scoop neck, and 3/4 length sleeves.

I don’t wear a lot of button-ups even though I love how they look because they are so hard to fit for me. I really like the layering potential of a gingham or chambray shirt under sweaters in cooler weather or over a tank when it’s warmer.


I’m less into plaid than I am into gingham. Leopard print feels super “not me.” I wouldn’t be caught dead in giraffe print or other animal-y things.

I wear almost exclusively knit tops but I want to find woven tops that work for me! I prefer natural fibers (cotton!) over polyester. I need stuff that’s easy to wash – I have never dry-cleaned anything in my life and I don’t want to start.

I pretty much exclusively wear scoop neck and v-neck styles. Crew neck and boatneck tops and dresses just make my boobs look like they reach my neck. Like, they’re huge, I know, but those necklines make it look way worse.

What I’m looking for out of StitchFix

I’d love some nicer-quality, classic basics that I would feel comfortable wearing around the house and out on errands, as well as to my casual workplace. Nothing fussy or high-maintenance, but something that looks relatively “pulled together.”

Now that I’m on my way to receiving a wonderful tax return this year, I’m going to pull the trigger and order my first Fix. I get store credit if you sign up and order a Fix, so here’s my referral link and I would super duper appreciate you clicking on it if you think you’d like to try it out. I promise to report back with my thoughts on my first Fix!


December 31, 2014 3:29 pm

Looking Forward

I saw this series of statements somewhere today and thought it would make sense to write them down here.

This year, I want to learn how to needlefelt. I want to make little animals! My mother-in-law knows how and maybe if I ask reaaaaallly nicely, she might teach me.

I want to read all the books we pick out for book club. I’m already side-eyeing this month’s pick as it’s not something I would have chosen myself (On the Road by Jack Kerouac) but I will soldier through.

I want to make friends! I know I grew up here, but I honestly don’t have many in-person friends where I live. I joined a mother’s club and have been attending their monthly book club to try to make this happen. We shall see! Wish me luck. Friend-making is hard once you’re past, like, age eight.

I want to visit Portland! But I always want to visit Portland. Maybe if we win the lottery we can go to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter because I neeeeed to go at some point in my life. I finally logged back into Pottermore the other day and then spent two days HOOKED to the website going through all the moments. Now I’m thinking about having another Harry Potter themed birthday because I will turn 30 in 2015 and what better way to celebrate than dressing up as a fictional wizard?

I want to change my career path. I have GOT to find something else to do. I have been out of the professional web development loop for so long that I don’t even know how to break back in anymore and frankly, the thought makes me feel exhausted instead of excited. I’m still really interested in becoming a lactation consultant, so maybe I will do some more research. Seems dumb to switch careers and possibly go back to school when I haven’t even paid off my student loans for my first degree, but doing client web work makes me feel super panicky in a way that helping people breastfeed does not and I think I should follow my instincts.

I want to be better at finding a place for everything and putting everything in its place. I want to have a living space that won’t make me cringe on a daily basis. I’ve put this book on hold at the library and I’m excited to read through it. I’m an inveterate packrat and I’m desperately trying to change that so I’m not wading through junk all the time.

Most of all I want to not worry so much this year. Things will work out.


December 10, 2014 12:27 pm


  • Hospital Records

    Yesterday, I went and picked up my medical records from Thora’s birth. I was really nervous to read through them, but happily, there really weren’t any surprises. The official post-operative diagnosis was “fetal intolerance of labor” and “fetal malposition with asynclitic position,” and I was diagnosed with atypical HELLP syndrome. In short, I appear to grow crooked babies who panic during labor. And my placenta tries to kill me.

    I still want to go over my lab work with my mom (an L&D nurse) to better understand what all the numbers mean, but for the most part nothing stood out as being “not how I remembered it” or anything. One operative note mentioned “adhesions noted to the uterus,” which I assume is scar tissue from the first surgery? I’ll have to ask about that too I guess.

    There weren’t any tears involved in reading through the notes; I think mainly because nothing came as a surprise to me. I knew why we transferred, and even though I hated to do it, I knew that it was a legitimate reason to transfer. The midwives’ notes from my labor are all very positive and show that I was handling everything well and I feel a little more at peace with everything now that I’ve read through all the notes.

  • Thora

    Thora continues to be a delight. At seven months old, she doesn’t fall asleep by herself anymore, and wakes up at 2am to nurse (it used to be 5am) and nurses every two hours thereafter, but if those are my only complaints I HAVE IT SO GOOD. Rocking her to sleep is a small price to pay for a baby who actually sleeps long stretches at night.

    She’s got a super-quick army crawl and is already working on pulling up to stand on things like laundry baskets and the couch and our footstool. She is so much more active than Wesley was at this age. Keeps me on my toes.

    We’ve introduced solid foods, but like Wesley, she’s not super interested in actually eating anything for real yet. (Except paper she finds on the floor. She will happily eat any and all paper garbage.) I’m completely fine with her intake; it’s way easier to just nurse a baby than try to figure out what and how much solid food to feed them. She hates bottles and I had FIVE OUNCES of pumped milk go to waste recently because I couldn’t get her to drink it after it was thawed. Argh!

    I started calling her “Beebee” a while back (like “baby” but with more Es) and that devolved into calling her “Beebz” and “Beeberton.” I make no excuses. Nicknames are dumb and hilarious.

  • Wesley

    He loves preschool and asks me if he can go three days a week instead of just two. (Would if I could, but his class only meets 2x/week.) I love hearing him talk about what he learns at preschool. This past week, he made a walrus out of a paper lunchbag and it was so funny to hear him explain stuff about his “rahl-wuss” to me.

    He is finally mostly over his bad behavior phase; he doesn’t throw things at me in anger anymore and only has occasional tantrums. I knew it was just a phase, but man, that was a rough couple of months.

    He’s pretty conscientious of not leaving stuff on the floor for Thora to grab/eat/choke on, and we’re currently working on making sure that if he has something he doesn’t want wrecked (like a train track or block tower) it needs to be in his room because if it’s in the living room, she’ll Godzilla it immediately. He’s a great big brother and really likes her company.

  • Secret Quonsar!

    My third year participating in Metafilter’s annual SQ gift exchange was the best yet. My recipient gave me a lot of info to go on which was very helpful. I ended up getting her a Jane Austen-related book from her wishlist, plus a Graze box, two chocolate bars, some paper clips shaped like bunnies (she said she liked office supplies!), and a Tattly tattoo of a rainbow riding a skateboard.

    The gifts I received were amazing. Trader Joe’s chocolate caramels (two different kinds!), a little birdie letter opener, a letterpress postcard from San Diego, the gift-giver’s favorite book (The Secret History by Donna Tartt), and a cute little notebook with feathers on it that was personalized with my name. I actually didn’t even notice my name at first, and when I saw it a few days later I was like OMGGGGG because I never get to have stuff with my name on it and it made that gift so much more special. Thank you, SQ!

  • Christmas

    I’m pretty ready for Christmas, actually! I got most of my shopping done before the end of November, and I even managed to get some family photos of us so our Christmas cards are all ready to be stamped and mailed.

    Family photo: